18 October 2013

Expat to expat Q&A: Friends & Family

Thought up and hosted by the lovely ladies at Found Love, Now What and The Hemborg Wife this months thoughs turn to friends and whanau at home.
 
Question #1: How do your family and friends back home perceive your new life, and is it accurate?
Yes, I think so. It's a hip, hop and happening place (sorry, couldn't resist) full of dramatic buildings, amazing events and stories about crazy characters on the train home. I think this is how it looked to the family at home (Hi Dad!) but wasn't probably wasn't very true a couple of years ago as we were becoming really complacent, drifting into a 9-5 fug – an eat, rinse, repeat cycle. We were getting bad (for instance saying no to a concert of a really good band "because they'll come again") and we needed a kickstart. Enter stage left 'Adventures of a London Kiwi' and a self/public pressure to be doing interesting stuff in order to feed the blog beast.
 
It's the best thing I could have done. The people I've met, the places we've been and the things we been able to experience is astonishing. Now, our family here sigh that we're too busy and "always doing such interesting stuff". Bingo. 
 
 
There are just so many opportunities here - I really don’t want to sound smug though. Life in London is just the same and has as many (though probably different) drawbacks as living in any other country. It does help to not be a penniless student living in London as it's fairly expensive at times, but if you're prepared to take a risk to do something outside of your comfort zone and do a little research there are so many things you can do for free and really cheaply.
 
Buy a sarnie and sit in one of the Royal Parks with a group of chattering friends, peruse one of the free weird and wonderful London Museums. Get on Twitter if you are struggling for moolah/people to do stuff with/unusual activities. Seriously - and brands are always doing competitions and giving away tickets. Go! Add me whilst you're there, come say hey!

Question #2: Do you find the need to edit your life from friends and family?
 
In a short answer no. I'm very definitely a 'what you see is what you get' person and I pride myself on telling things how they are but in a nice way.
 
I don't really tell them about the boring work politics that go on or day-to-day squabbles (except the Sweets vs. Lollies debate that will forever rage in our house) or the really boring stuff like spending the day at home doing chores, but who does (apart from one friend on Facebook - you know who you are) wherever they live?
 
 
I also try not to share negativity on this here 'ole blog. Except when it's funny. I want my blog to be a nice place, something light and amusing that will put a smile on someones face - even if it's because I'm trying to hard to be funny.
 
Occasionally is great to have a rant, and the learning the art of moaning is an essential skill set here in the UK (I don't say that in a rude way, but BOY the English take a delight in moaning) and it is fantastic to sit in the pub with a few good friends and complain about something that will never ever change. But that's where I would do it. Communicating with friends and fmaily at home is too precious to waste time with unimportant problems.
 
So kinda, yes is the long answer but I'm not really keeping anything from them, just simply not sweatting the small stuff.

 
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6 comments :

  1. I think it's great that your blog motivated you to get out and do more! To an extent, I think mine does as well. At the very least it reminds me to document the things we do so that I'll have a record of them later. Seeing as our time here is limited, I have a hard time imagining us passing off an opportunity to do something cool or see a fun show, but we certainly did that often back home and I regret it!

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    1. It absolutely does - after living here for so long you get complacent which is ridiculous!

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  2. We do like a good moan!

    Great post, really interesting to see it from a Kiwi's point of view :)

    Hmm maybe...

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    1. It's practically a sport here - it's great stress relief though!

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  3. Thanks for linking up with us! I am jealous a bit of all you get to do in London but like you said you still have chores like the rest of us!

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