13 November 2013

Expat to Expat Q&A - Expectations and Advice

Thought up and hosted by the lovely ladies at Found Love, Now What and The Hemborg Wife this months thoughs turn to before and afters.

Q1: What advice would you give to your pre-expat self?

 
Q2: How do you reconcile what you thought life would be like in your new home and it is in actuality? i.e. did you think you would be fluent in your new language and you are struggling with the basics

In my naivety I don’t think I really came with any expectations. I’m very lucky that I’ve not had to learn a new language, a good friend of mine offered for me to rent her room when I was settling into London and New Zealand is very English in many ways, so adapting wasn’t so hard.

I was also very, very lucky to meet Mr. Kiwi who is my best friend and usual partner in crime. He adventures with me, not always totally willingly (I think mostly it's the English reserve), but always discovering new delights which makes for an interesting life away from work, and that's a recipe for a happy Kiwi.

Most days I don't think of myself as an expat - until a bout of homesickness hits, I mess up another greeting or I get a direction totally wrong. Then I definitely feel like a foreigner. I've lived here long enough that London has become my home - it's just really, really far away from my birth home which sucks.

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How about you? Could you see yourself as a lifer in another country? What advice would you give to yourself?
 

17 comments :

  1. Hate mushy peas, can't get on board. Don't know what it is as I love normal peas!

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    1. Must be a texture thing - I love them because I kid myself that they're a bit of healthy on my plate...

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    2. I have to second Dannielle's opinion on mushy peas. I love regular peas, but I will always pass on a serving of mushy peas. I think for me I can't get past their appearance on a plate (it reminds me of those nasty cleanups I had to do when I was a babysitter).

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  2. That must be tough being SO FAR from New Zealand, but hopefully you're not homesick too often! Love your graphic for the post.

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    1. Alls I can say is thank goodness for Skype, it's amazing!

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  3. I loved seeing your answers and what you said that it is just a bit sad your home is so far from your birthplace!

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    1. It's funny, sometimes I think 'am I even an expat anymore?'. Love these linkups, thank you & Belinda for dreaming them up!

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  4. Vinegar on chips? Coming from a Kiwi that sounds really odd to me! Haha I do love the cheesy-weezy's that we do in NZ though. Tartare sauce + cheese + chips is possibly the best combination I've had yet!

    I'm not really well versed in travel but I can definitely see myself moving overseas permanently, as can the rest of my family. Haha. I've always been told that I'm the one who is going to get on a plane and never come back to NZ. I'm actually planning a trip to Europe in 2016 after I graduate and if everything works out then I'll be living there! Failing that, there's always Australia ;) I definitely believe that you make your own luck in the world so that's probably what I would (and do) tell myself :)

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    1. I miss the garlic sauce you can get in Kiwi chippies. Heaven (and heart attack) in a delicious container!

      I think it's great to get out and see the world - it makes you appreciate home so much more too. Good luck with the travelling - you do largely make your own luck. With a little planning, hard work and a touch of luck you'll be fine!

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  5. I love your visual compilation of advice! I've been living in Peru for the past few years - I've definitely stayed to be with my partner in crime too. It's comforting to create special moments, wherever you may be. At the same time, I feel like it's inevitable to miss where you're from, or another place you feel at home at. Excited to find your blog through the link-up!

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    1. I've been loving exploring your blog too. It's an interesting dynamic when you travel to stay to be with a partner!

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  6. I like your advise and will revisit when I am there and need a kick up to positivity lane.

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  7. Love, love, love your first answer! I always blame it on the boogie ;-)
    I totally get your last comment, Toronto is my home but the distance thing really sucks, thank god for Skype indeed!

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    1. Hehehe, I couldn't resist!
      How did people live so far from home without phones let alone relying on the post?

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  8. Were you a committed Anglophile before you left home?

    I was, before I left Melbourne, and took to living in Britain like a duck to water. But my husband was not and after a couple of years in London and Herts , he wanted to go home. Years later, I would still buy a small house in the UK, preferably on the south coast.

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    1. Surprisingly, not really. I think that's why it's such a shock to realise that I've fallen head over heels for it.

      Ah, that must be tough. You could have it as a holiday home :-D

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